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Congradulations to:

* Hunter Brown!  Who recieved his Eagle Award a few weeks ago.  So proud of Him!

* Rachael Montgomery!  Who has a baby on the way!

* Brandalyn Myrick!  Who has a baby on the way!

(do you have one to add, please share!)

 

Prayer Needs:

(I could think of many for the family, in respect to privacy, I will only post these, if someone asks)

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Need to know:

  • Dave, what are you doing for your birthday?

 

  • Nick, what are you doing for your birthday?

 

  • Jessica, is there a way to send anything to Zuzu?
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  Bowder Family Website

You know writing this explanation paragraph has held me back from creating this page for the last two plus years.  Seeing that wall, I have decided to step over that wall by just not writing it.  There are a million things I could say; from different directions, opinions, and views. 

Bottom line:  Our family has drifted apart because of two reason. 

1) People allowing worldly emotions to get in the way of what G.d has given them, a family. 

I pray consistantly, constantly, and I focus on the day that satan's offences (someone not meeting anothers exspectation) will no longer have a hold on this Bowder Clan!  G.d made a very tight family, and that has been our greatest strength.  Yet at times, our emotions have allowed this strength to be our greatest weakness.

2) Lack of communication.

Time to tackle that one.  The calendar below is listed as a public Bowder Family Events.  Bowder meaning, and including linege that came from Mr. & Mrs. Robert & Ann Bowder.  If there are events happening in your life, that you would like support, help, or just want family to be there, please email me (rhythmofmyheart@msn.com), email me on facebook or text me 503-740-2145, and ask me to add it.

 

   

  Bowder Family Calendar
   

Disclaimer #1:  Posting events/questions on facebook, is not a means to communication.  Not everyone is on facebook, and a lot of people do not know how to see everything.

Disclaimer #2:  No one, from now and forward can use the excuse "I didn't know."

Disclaimer #3:  No one, from now and forward can use the excuse "I wasn't invited."

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Christmas Day

Christmas Day exciting falls on a Sunday this year. For the first time that I can remember I am excited to be celebrating the birth of our L.rd & Savior on His birthday at church! Service starts at 10am. I welcome the family to come and join me that day at Portland Christian Center and celebrate Jes.s birthday!

Extended Family Christmas. After each family I am sure celebrates their own family Christmas, I would love to see our extended families to join together. I would like to open up ENCORE for all of our families to join together. Lacking there is a kitchen... so input from others would be great of weather or not you would like it there, or at another location.

Christmas Gift Giving:

Christmas is about celebrating how much G.d loves us. That Chr.st was brought into this world as a gift to us. Given up as the last Lamb as a gift to us, so that we may spend eternity with our Heavenly Father. We did nothing to earn this gift. You could put no value on this gift. You could not do anything earn that gift. It's simply a gift.

Gifts at Christmas time should be about the same.

For the last ten years, in my home, that has been my own families focus. Chr.st, the gift of Him. We do not focus on gifts, or monatary value. And those values grow stronger each year. I remember as a young teenager, and a young adult, I would always worry or panic if I didn't have enough money to spend on the family. I also remember going into a lot of debt over Christmas gifts. As I matured with my own family, I didn't choose to continue that stress & worry about one of the most wonderful days of the year. Slowly over the years, a lot of family has learned this about me. Now, I hope to influence, and incourage more of the family to open thier eyes to the true meaning of Christmas.

Rule #1

Bringing gifts for every member of the family is NOT a requirement to come to Christmas.

Rule #2

Not being able to afford a gift and feeling guilty when receiving one, is NOT allowed at Christmas. (;-)

Reality Check... 3, 2, 1...

however people are just people, and emotions fly around the holidays because peoples hearts are dealing with many things. Do remember people on Christmas. This can be given in many ways. I encourage my children to do something, make something, save their money and purchase something small, acknowledge each member of the family in some way. Keep offences away from our family by doing this.

You know that Christmas is on the same day, every year. 364 days to prepare. Proper preparedness = no offences;) Open communication = no offences;) Keep G.d in the center of our family by keeping Love in the center of our family.

Bowder Family Traditions:

* There are many family traditions in the Bowder clan, some have been kept, some have been forgotten, some have never been known and some have not been able to continue for one reason or another.  (The traditions listed below, were started with Mr. & Mrs. Robert & Ann Bowder)

  • Candy Canes from stockings to beds in representation that Santa Claus has come.
    • Kept at Valerie's house; with modification; it's known that Mom spinkle candy canes and kiss your forehead at night, the candy canes represent Jes.s Blood (red) and purifing our lives (white); and that Jes.s is our sheperad and guide (hince the shape of a cane); that acknowledgment 'sweet'ens our day and lives.
    • Who else kept this?
  • We put up a manger with no baby Jes.s in it, and in the morning, one of the kids get to move baby Jes.s to His rightful place in the manger.
    • Kept in Valerie's house
    • Who else kept this?
  • We read the Christmas story before unwrapping presents.
    • Kept in Valerie's house; with modification, we read the story even before opening up the stockings.
    • Who else kept this?
  • No one can come down the stairs until they are all together... and after hot chocolate
    • Kept in Valerie's house
    • Who else kept this?
  • Giving our night time wear on Christmas Eve.
    • Kept in Valerie's house
    • Who else kept this?
  • Putting up an ornament that represents each person in the family.
    • Kept in Valerie's house
    • Who else kept this?
  • Making sure to have a new ornament for every signaficant thing that happened in the year.
    • I did not keep this tradition. Sometimes I wish I would have. I am looking to do this in a less expensive way.
    • Who kept this?
  • Putting the afternoons fruit salad in the stockings.
    • I did not keep this tradition. We do not eat fruit salad. (LOL)
    • Who kept this?

What traditions did you keep?

Anyone have traditions of their own?

Mom's/Grandma's Stuff:

I have Mom's/Grandma's stuff, some stuff I have already given out, others I still have. If you are interested in getting any of it for your own family, please get a hold of me, so that you may remember her on Christmas. I simply ask that you treasure it, and take care of it.

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How blessed I am & you are to have such a large family! 

Tell me how you are blessed & I will post it:

* I am so blessed to have a family with such a large heart that they have welcomed others into the family thru out the years. Welcomed them with open arms. ~Valerie Dawn

Remember when:

* Alex was being born, and I had to watch all of my nieces & newphews in the waiting room for like the tenth time... and my walkman got stolen!  Uh... someone stills owes me that walkman! ~Valerie Dawn

Did you know?: 

* My number one reason when I am thinking up things to do that has to involve work... I think how could I incorperate this into seeing my family.  Being a single mom for 9 years, and then going thru the work load I had to carry, my first thought was..... hey if I could do this, I get to see them.  My intent or need has never been, I had to have my family around... it's always been those are the people that I WANTED AROUND...~Valerie Dawn

Things I have to say:

* Michael, the football game is mine, and I demand to have it back! ~Valerie Dawn

Have something to add..... text me, email me... and I will add it... have a question for the family... ask it... I will post it..anonymously if I must...

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